Time to put I to the side and Listen.

One of the best things that I have implemented into my life is being honest with myself and with others.  There is no more hiding what needs to be said to myself and to others.  I am in no way trying to hurt anyone's feelings as I would rather be honest with everyone.  One thing that I have learned is that those real hard talks or moments of being checked comes from a place of love.  In the world it has been taught that love is this mushy gushy emotional filled experience, but I am starting to see that love has many other forms.  Sometimes love can come across as harsh, but in reality that harsh love is real deep love.  In the past when I ever encountered someone that was just being honest with me I would hear what they are saying, but that doesn't mean I was listening.  I would always push away those that were the most honest with me.  Yes, that even includes my parents, but with parents you can't ghost them completely.  Friends in my past that kept the conversations honest they eventually got pushed away, and I was the person to push them away.  I never understood that they were being a true friend operating out of love.  All I did was keep Me and My feelings in the way.
It wasn't until recently that I had a real hard conversation with myself recognizing that I need to stop pushing real friends away, and stop being so sensitive.  Yes, I said it, and I am not ashamed of it at all, I was being sensitive and all up in my feelings.  Once I started to put Me to the background and embraced the We it became clear that those being honest with me were doing it out of love.  We need to begin to embrace honest conversations and stop being so sensitive especially when someone is having a honest conversation with us.  Those honest conversations are not being done out of hate but more out of love.  We all have the ability to distinguish when someone is operating out of love or hate, and it is up to you to recognize that.  We have to be careful that we don't push away those that are operating in love even when the conversation might come across harsh to you.  The conversation might be coming across harsh because deep down you know you needed to hear that.  Try putting You to the side and listen to what is being said.