Present Together…
Bringing clarity to an overwhelmed mind in business and in life…
It’s good to have people by your side, but its right to also be by their side. We have to be careful not to get so caught up in our own business, because we can’t do this alone. Don’t take a break from your business but make it your business to be there and be present with others. Our businesses no matter big or small always come with assistance we just have to be present together in order to experience the benefits.
In many of my blogs, my published books and in my own conversations I tend to have a lot of focus on individuals. I tend to do that because it took me being alone by myself to uncover the hidden real me. From the time I was able to leave my family and go hangout with my friends without adult supervision I was always out. But the times that I had to stay in on the weekends I felt like I was in a prison with no way out. Maybe a little dramatic but I still feel like it was prison. Anyways, I was a child that loved to be around people and just be out. Don’t get me wrong I knew how to be still but that doesn’t mean I wanted to practice it. So, I stayed on the move for years just going from here to there. I was never really planting roots because it wasn’t my focus, I just wanted to move around.
As years went on and with certain circumstances in life, I found myself sitting still and alone. There was no one physically there anymore for me to reach towards. It finally happened, I was finally put into my prison and there really was no way out. Seriously, I looked over and under things, also around and through it all I couldn’t find a way out. I was literally in this prison and there was no one to call, because I never stood still to plant my roots. I never took the time to really be a friend and walk with my friends as we all go through our journeys. See, we all have our own individual journeys we are on. What I mean by that is we are all made unique and different from each other in how we process information. We can all see the same situation with our eyes but we will have different perspectives and how we may interpret the situation. I never took the time to make sure that I not only saw a situation for what it was but made sure I understand how another may interpret things and what it means to them.
To be honest it all sounded like a lot just to be friends with someone and that is how I took it. But now that I was alone in my prison, I was wishing I had that one annoying friend just call me so I can communicate with a real person. I didn’t take my relationships with seriousness, and I was paying somewhat of a price for my lack of understanding. It was normal to have people by myside and as long as they were by my side then I was by their side. But I’m not too sure they ever saw it that way. It felt like a two-way street friendship, but when it came down to it I wasn’t fully committed. For some reason I thought I knew what being independent and in solitary felt like until I was really there. I tend to have moments I want to be alone and now those moments are true but in the past I was usually annoyed and just rather be by myself. In reality I didn’t see things how others did but I also didn’t ask them how they perceived certain situations. It was easier to come to my conclusion and call it quits. Like I said I would rather be by myself in those moments.
But this prison that I was in wasn’t my style and I knew that if I would have took my friendships with complete seriousness, I wouldn’t keep getting myself stuck in a rut over and over again. Instead of dealing with life alone and tired, I would rather deal with life together and living. I knew that this prison I was in was self made and if I wanted to free myself I couldnt escape this time. I couldn’t run from my problem as It was time to go through the proper steps. It was time to build true friendships, a brotherhood, a sisterhood of friends that are present together. All living in the present moment building together.
